Breaking the ice on dating sites


An original, person-specific joke makes you stand out among vague come-ons.

I know what you’re thinking — yes, this takes a bit more time, thought, and effort.

Puns make good icebreakers because they’re witty and just a little bit silly. As a general rule, sexual language and references in a first message are no-nos.

Sure, making a pun is on the cheesy side, but so is pizza. Zoosk suggests something simple like: “What did the fish say when he swam into a wall? ” I personally enjoyed this gem of an opener courtesy of College Humor: “I just saw the best upsexy.” The other person can’t help but reply, “What’s upsexy? You could end up alienating your date before you can send a second message. Your message doesn’t have to be the most wonderfully worded introduction ever.

According to Buzzfeed, sending a GIF on Tinder increases your likelihood of getting a response by 30%. ” In a funny first message, the online dater shows interest in Michaela’s pictures, pays a compliment to her dog, asks a solid question, and makes a flirtatious suggestion.